lost legacies and top pnms

Girls just choosing for themselves. Wild. Right?

Yes, love the rare girl choosing for herself! But also think legacies should be treated well and rushed hard even if they are not in the “in” crowd. It is disrespectful and embarrassing to lose in house legacies. And once they pledge, be treated as someone they had to take. I agree with all this. I know it happens in a certain couple more than others. So rude.

Legacies are so overrated, and I'm speaking as one.

Just because my mother had an amazing time in XYZ in 1985 does not mean I would have a great time in that same chapter. I am NOT my mom! We have different personalities, interests, styles! It's been more than 30 years since she pledged here and the chapter she joined resembles the current house very little.

It would be silly for me to join an organization just because an ENTIRELY different group of women happened to select my mother when she was 18. I pledged a house that shared MY values... What does my mom have to do with that?

Y'all need to make up your mind. Usually we say that Legacy doesn't mean squat, or guarantee you anything beyond a courtesy round or two. Now we're bashing houses because legacies went somewhere else?

Who cares?

Even the top houses lose out on highly desired legacies. It is not so much of an insult anymore. See it happen too even with in-house sisters. Sometimes it may even be a negative if a younger sister wants to stand on her own or is tired of being in her mothers or sisters shadow....

Those asked about in the OP were not pmu legacies and just chose them.

This post seems like a dissatisfied alumnae. There is no legacy conspiracy. Let the students decide.

No one said conspiracy. Stating facts of how legacies are taken who are treated as tokens and how many girls pledge for mom and are unhappy. Go where you will be happy, wherever that may be.

Y’all really need to chill and, I agree with a previous poster, make up your minds. Sororities take their legacies and y’all say they aren’t treated well and are only doing it to appease alums/for tradition. They don’t take legacies that don’t fit and you say they lost out on legacies choosing to go elsewhere. If they take them, they’re digging themselves a hole and not accepting OOS PNMs, and if they don’t take them another chapter is stealing them.

Have you ever considered that maybe you don’t know the ins and outs of recruitment for every house on campus? With 400 girls in each chapter, do you really think you know how each girl got selected? He’l i’m a senior and I don’t even know how each girl in our newest PC got selected or how they scored, because trusting the process I my house also means trusting that your sisters share your values and will score a girl well without you needing to know why any PNM got cut. So my house may “steal” some legacies from other chapters, and our legacies may end up elsewhere, but so long as all the girls are happy where they end up, why do you care?