opinions on dropping
by: :(Hey y'all, i joined my sorority this year but so far don't feel like I fit in with any of the girls. when I went on the retreat, go to the house for meals, try to talk to people everyone just seems kinda stand off ish and I feel like I don't have anything in common with them. I really liked them during rush but now I feel like I don't fit in with any of the girls and they all have friend groups and stuff etc. idk if I should drop, stay in and hope it gets better (unsure if I should go through initiation too if I'm unsure about the sorority) transfer etc. idk what to do
#1by: active
I felt this same way last year when I pledged. I was obviously meeting new people but it was more of an "acquaintance" feeling rather than a "sister" feeling. My biggest piece of advice is to stay with it until initiation and if you still feel this way then drop. However, this is a two way street. You can't expect girls to just come up to you and ask to be best friends. You need to work yourself, you need to put yourself out there, you need to initiate conversations, you need to take people up on their offers to go shopping/go out/etc, you need to ask people if they're going out and if you can tag along, etc... Eventually you will find your group. If you're more of a shy person, this will be very uncomfortable but trust me you're going to wish you were more proactive during your pledge season.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU GIRL!!!
Comment#3by: Just do it
You can't take a bid anywhere else for a year. It seems like you are trying. I lived in prez and my schedule made going for all offered meals impossible. You may feel like a dork asking to tag along but it is totally fine everyone is feeling this way too. Unless you are at an OR house..... Then you are filler and will make friends with other filler
#5by: truth
You have to make friends. No house is going to "automatically" feel like home. You're going to have to reach out to your pledge sisters. Invite someone to coffee. See if someone else wants to go shopping. Invite a pledge sister in your major to study with you. Get to know them one on one. EVERYONE has to do this, it isn't just you. It's what's being in a sorority is all about.
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by: stop
That little comment about old row was unnecessary. Every year old row houses take more and more OOS girls and every year they are slowly becoming more egalitarian or else their standing is being diminished. Do NOT tell OOS girls to just "find the other filler girls." We need to encourage the in-state girls to go outside of their comfort zone AND encourage OOS girls to reach out to the Alabama girls. It happens in new row every day. Old row can get past the "filler" label too.
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