finding your place

It took me about a month and a half to find my people. Just spend time with your roommates, since you'll see them so often, sit with different people (of all PC's) at each meal, and talk. And always ask people to run errands with you or walk to class with you! You'll figure out which girls are your "sisters" and which ones are your sisters.

You WILL find them! I know it seems like everyone already made their cliques, but keep an eye out for the girls who are just like you and haven't found them yet. Once you start going to meetings, look for the girls who aren't sitting with anyone. Or the girls walking into the house that don't know who to sit with for lunch. Trust me, they're out there.

And if that fails, you may have to be a little assertive and make friendly with an already formed group. It's only been a few days so it should still be easy at this point. The longer you wait the harder it will be.

Also, the group of friends I had for the first few weeks in my sorority are not the same group of friends I have now. I'm still friendly with those girls but we naturally drifted apart as we found our own people. Sometimes girls will stick with girls from their hometowns or Rho Chi groups for the first week weeks. Give it time and in the meantime be as social as you can.

Trust me, don't drop.

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It took me nearly my entire freshman year to find my "people." I had a LOT of acquaintances but not a ton of close, close friends. You really just have to take the initiative to reach out to everyone constantly, especially if you don't have many sisters on your hall/in your classes/in your other extra-curriculars. Always try to sit with new people at meals, text people to ask how they're doing, make plans to get coffee and stick with them. Invite people to go to church with you, or a farmer's market, or a concert or a movie. Take initiative and be patient. Sometimes you can't find your place unless you work to make it.

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Hey hun, I totally get what you're feeling right now. When I first got into my sorority, I seemed to be the odd ball out in the class (a moment I still think was so stupid as I had a class of 130 girls lol). But I was determined to find my place as I really loved my sorority going through rush. It took me about a month for me to really find my "crew". As I went to more events, talked to more sisters, and really just joined in on the sorority i found even more girls who I connected with. Now in my third year I have my best friends from my sorority who I found overtime in chapter.
You will find yours, I promise you. Sometimes it looks like girls have it all together but in reality they feel the same way as you do. Don't give up💕

It took me all of freshman year. But it was worth it!

Took me finding my big and fam! I rushed as a sophomore so I def was feeling like an odd duck.
My big was also a soph and we just clicked and were inseperatble! We are even going to grad school in the same city next year now and so jazzed about it.
It doesn't happen overnight! Or ever in a week or a month. Maybe you'll meet your people getting ready for swaps, maybe it'll be at dinner at the house, maybe it will be volunteering for the same service hours...but you WILL find them.

Same post that has been going around for the last 4 years these are so predictable like the one's about not getting a bid to any house.