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by: Worried    

I am a legacy to 2 houses, both old row. How do I let all the other sororities know that I am not set on joining either ? I am afraid I will be cut bc they assume I am going to one. I do not think I will be cut where I am a legacy... but if I am, when does that usually happen??
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#1by: G   
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You can emphasize to the houses that you want to pick the house that is best for you and you have an open mind. Are you an in house legacy? That's usually the only thing that can cause problems for PNMs who are legacies

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#2by: Legacy   
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Sister graduated UA a few years ago. Other legacy is not from UA. . How do I say something to others and when.

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by: X   

You are probably fine then since your sister isn't an active. If someone asks maybe mention that your sister was in Greek life at UA and her experience made you want to be a part of Greek life here (if that's the case for you) and that you're excited to get to meet all the houses at rush because you have an open mind.

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#3by: Hi   
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"I do not think I will be cut where I am a legacy."

Unless you have a 4.0, were homecoming queen, volunteered at a children's shelter, part-time model, student council president and rescue puppies, there is literally nothing guaranteeing you a bid to your legacy house.

That being said, if you make it to your legacy house for pref, you're basically guaranteed a bid. I'm in an Old Row house with a ton of legacies and if we can't take you, we'll release you after philanthropy. It's not to be mean, but to give you enough time to find the right house for you.

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#4by: So   
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So if she makes it to philanthropy (is that second round) She is probably not being cut ?

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by: no   

Most legacies are extended a courtesy invitation to philanthropy, the second round, out of respect to the alumna and (sometimes) in an effort to give the legacy a second chance to 'mesh' with the house. If philanthropy is over and the house still has no intention of pledging the legacy, they will drop her for sisterhood round to give her the second half of recruitment to find her home.

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by: R   

No, almost all legacies make it to philanthropy. They get a free pass from being cut right after ice water teas. But if you're going to get cut as a legacy, we usually do it right after philanthropy. If you make it to sisterhood, you're probably good to go unless you just dress or act bizarre that day. And I mean like whackadoofle crazy.

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by: SOS   

Yep. After second round is when the legacies that are not going to make it to pref get let go. Very few legacies are dropped after sisterhood. It can happen, but very rare.

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#5by: Honestly   
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Just be clear to your RC and to the others around you that you are totally open. But also don't go advertising your legacy. Just let it be unstated and emphasize that you want your own rush. You don't want your mom's rush.

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#6by: Mostly agree    
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It depends on how heavy of a legacy you are too. I'm a triple legacy at one OR house (mother, grandmother, great-grandmother from different schools), and my sister as an alum of a NR house at another school. I know of at least one OR house (I now am friends without girl that rushed me) that cut me after IWTs not because of grades, involvement, ect but because of my heavy legacy status at this one house. Even though my sister was something different, it still seemed like I was most likely going sorority XYZ. Of course that's just one house and I'm not saying i didn't get cut from other houses for other reasons, but that active said THAT much of a legacy, even from other chapters, stands out.

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Sorry about my atrocious spelling but yes I went to my legacy house. Not necessarily because of fit, but because I was cut from the other 2 houses where I really saw myself and it was more genuine than the rest of the houses I had left.

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#7by: And...   
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Were they right? Did you pledge that lol

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#8by: Ugh.   
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See, this worries me. I'm also a Legacy three ways at a house that gets a lot of Legacies (None are current actives, two went to Alabama).

I am bound and determined to have my own Recruitment experience, and make choices based on my own thoughts and feelings. My mom is totally good with whatever decisions I make. I think she felt a lot of pressure to follow my Grandma. Although she was happy in her sorority, she doesn't want me to feel the same way. My Grandma would be sad if I went somewhere else, but she'll live, and the third pretty much won't be happy unless I skip every chapter I get invited back to BUT my legacy chapter and then suicide for the Legacy house. Okay, that's a slight exaggeration because I'm pretty sure you can't actually do all of that, but you get the idea. She keeps telling me that every other house is gonna cut me anyway, because of my legacy status and it's freaking me out.

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That is just not fair. Houses are too afraid of you dropping them instead of going for their own preferences.

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by: Ugh.   

I'm not sure if the houses are worried about people dropping them so much as they want to make sure they give spots to people who might pick them, too, if that makes sense.

The person who keeps telling me this hasn't been an active in quite a while, so she might just be trying to scare me into only focusing on that one house.

My best friend went through Recruitment at a different school last year, and she was a Legacy somewhere too. Apparently, poaching Legacies was a popular Recruitment sport at her school, so it was a totally different experience. She ended up not going with her Legacy house and is perfectly happy.

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by: H   

Poaching legacies, especially strong pnms, is Definately a status thing for the Houses here. Like if you can get a legacy from a house and the house really wanted her? You sorta make a statement. And you kinda do.

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