tradition isn't everything

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Let's play a trivia game!

Which house has more alums that are doctors?
A). Alpha Chi
B). Alpha Phi

Which house has more alums that are lawyers?
A). Chi O
B). Zeta

Literally is there a single Alpha Phi alum that is a doctor or lawyer or owns her own business that isn't a boutique, hair salon or tanning bed?

Name ONE.

Bump

You don't have to go to Harvard law or business school. I'm in a house known for academics and I have several sisters that have graduated and gone on to med and law school at prestigious universities. Just because you complete undergrad at Bama in no way limits you to graduate school options.

there are plenty ZTA and A Phi alum that go on to become doctors, lawyers and successful women.

there are plenty ZTA and A Phi alum that go on to become doctors, lawyers and successful women.

What the OP said was "Do your own thing... maximize options but if the shoe doesn't fit, don't force it" which is true but also fits for sororities not pledging legacies or girls with connections.

My house both cut legacies and got cut by legacies. You can't get your feelings hurt either way. Everything always works out in the end. It's NOT a chapters loss if the PNM doesn't want them, it would be the chapters loss if they automatically had to rush or even pledge the girls.

If the PNM legacy is outstanding then it is the Chapter's loss if they can't hold on to such a girl. Your apathy is what's wrong with some of these places. It is one thing to wish someone well, another to say you don't care or call people dumb legacies-- these are the daughters and sisters of your "sisters"... I would say they are smart bc they saw through and did what they wanted.

I disagree. Being a legacy and feeling like you have to pledge your mom or sister's house is a thing of the past. Tons of girls in my group parted ways with their legacy houses early on. This isn't your mama's rush anymore and girls are more open minded and wanting to create their own path than they were 30 years ago.

Same is true for sister's house. I know of many strong maternal legacies, sister and even "in-house sister" legacies over the past couple of years that have gone in a different direction than mom or sister did. These girls wanted to do their own thing and make their own mark. It is not an insult to the legacy house or to mom or sister. It is an easy thing to understand actually.

Just because your mom was a DDD at Southwestern Texas Women's College for the Blind,in no way requires DDD here to keep you through extra rounds or offer you a bid. For some houses there are more legacies going through than spots in a pledge class. It's actually more polite to release a legacy early on if a house knows she's not a fit, so she has time and an extra slot to find the right house for her.

AXO likes those art, education and dance majors...

If a girl comes through and is a legacy at a different chapter, and you know she's not a fit, OK.

But if a girl comes through and is a top-notch PNM whose mother was in your very own house, and SHE cuts YOU, that is a serious issue and needs to be addressed immediately.

that was me lol. i have deep family connections (mom, aunts, cousins all were in the alabama chapter) with one particular old row sorority, and i cut them after philanthropy. i knew way ahead of time that the chapter had changed a lot from when my relatives where in the chapter and it would not be a good fit for me AT ALL. to top it off, they didnt treat me like legacies should be treated, and I was a good PNM regardless of legacy status (great grades, involvement, cute, southern, etc). its ridiculous bc i know this house knows how to recruit, and they couldve easily made me like them by having me talk to cool people but they just didnt care. I ended up pledging a different old row house and i couldnt be happier.