my experience

I know this is really well intentioned advice, and I'm sure we can all appreciate that, HOWEVER, to tell pnms to just "go where you feel happiest and most welcome" is easier said than done. You didn't get cut from anyone, so you don't understand how devastating it can be for a PNM to get cut by a house where they DO feel happy and welcomed. It sucks. And we should acknowledge that too. Because if we keep telling PNMs to just "go where they belong" and they get cut by houses where they feel they "belong", it makes them think the process is broken, when it really isn't. We should be telling PNMs that they may find that house they love and end up with a bid, or they may end up with a bid to a house where they felt lukewarm all week. And that's completely normal. Lots of girls find happiness after bid day, and not during recruitment.

Just my 2 cents.

Thank you for saying that. What I do like about Alabama is that very few will "fall through" if they are open minded. And having been lucky and had the chance to see them all so to speak, I think I could have been happy many places. I just meant that when it gets down to the end, to go where you feel happy and welcome...wherever that is. AND if you don't feel that way anywhere, there is nothing wrong with choosing to do something else at UA. I do things outside my sorority that I enjoy too and that is an option for everyone, So yes, I meant well...thank you so much for your viewpoint too!

Sororities can't take everyone....Some are very friendly by nature and are not leading you on. Some don't care about you and it's pretty obvious when they don't. It does hurt to get cut but often it's for reasons that people didn't get to know you, or are just snobs, or maybe it just isn't a fit.

In the end, girls are friends across sororities and it all works out more often than not.

If you really don't like a place, don't pledge. I agree to go with your gut.

If a house wants you, you will feel it. The key is knowing when it is authentic.

Because of large numbers, there will be dispassionate decision making for the so-called fillers, and some girls without connections are lost along the way, but the chapters put passion into who they want--and don't.

And there are lots of options, so be open-minded, and it should work out.

if you are from mountain brook , mobile, montgomery, tuscaloosa and maybe huntsville... the girls already know if they are keeping you or not & how much effort they want to put into you.

sad but true. high school affects college if you are in-state...your reputation and grades will be considered, and how you treated people along the way.


if you may be taken somewhere because you are a legacy , but that doesn't mean you will be hanging with girls there who never hung with you in high school. it can be pretty rough for in-state too.