what would you do differently?

I know this is going to sound corny but I wish I didn't know about this site beforehand. I wish I didn't go into recruitment knowing the tiers, knowing the rumors, knowing the different perceptions. Of course we all say "go in with an open mind" but even if you have the clearest eyes, there's still that voice in the back of your heard that's reminding you "oh this house is in this tier, oh people say guys don't like this house, oh the have bad rankings on greek rank, etc." I think when you go into recruitment with preconceived notions about houses you've never even been inside of before, it really hurts your rush experience.

Also, I wish I didn't compare myself to other girls constantly, whether it be clothes, makeup, number of houses asked back to, and which houses asked back to. I know rush is competitive but you should strive to be the best you can personally be, not the best out of a group of girls. I remember I didn't like a certain house because my roommate had her heart set on it... Like I literally didn't like a certain house, not because I didn't click or whatever, but because I didn't want to be in the same sorority as her lol.

Finally, I wish I paid more attention to how the girls treated me. Yes, most of us rush because we want to expand our social prospects, but at the end of the day you will have a group of hundreds of girls to fall back on. Choose a sorority you feel comfortable and loved in not a sorority that has a hot instagram & is popular among the boys.

Agree. If you are in high school ignore 99% of what is here. Find your best fit. Most of the comments are either girls with a grudge toward another house or comments from moms.

Towards the final parties like sisterhood and pref look at the girls who are at the parties with you and see if you could see them as your sisters. My best friends from my rho chi ended up houses that I had on my pref card if not in my house with me. Sometimes the girls rushing you all seem the same, but the girls in your rho chi aren't trying to impress you so I found that to be a better go by as to what house I could see myself in

I wish I hadn't worried about what houses my high school friends were going back to each day. We thought we were all going to pledge the same house, but in the end we all went 4 different ways. I held onto houses that I really didn't like for too long because I thought we'd pledge the same place.

Don't do that!

TBH I would have tried harder to understand local fashions and stuff and made sure I knew how to handle the humidity for hair and makeup.. I'm only from one state away and I know I probably looked like a straight up mess most of the week

This is the best and most honest stuff ever on GR. This site can be good for giving general information and ideas about groups but it is NOT the gospel for sure.

Look around at your fellow PNMs and see if you think you'd like to be in a pledge class with them - that is the best gage you can use.

Also, I wish that I didn't sit around Tut and listen to everyone's stories. They just made me anxious and second guess everything. You will definitely have those know it all girls who like to stir the pot and draw attention to themselves - about who they talked to and where they sat... you'll want to pull your hair out.

Have one or two people who you can use for advice, that you can count on and who have only your best interest at heart. Most likely that won't be your roommate or girls on your hall!!

Listen to your momma! Many people will get pissed I brought a momma into the conversation but I wish I had relied on my moms knowledge a little more. She was really the only person that had my best interest in mind.

I have several different legacy connections with my siblings, mom and grandmothers. I did not have preconceived ideas and wanted to make my own choices. I followed in their footsteps long enough! One of my legacy houses, which is also a new row house heard that I was more favorable to my stronger legacy house (old row house) which was not true! My mom wanted to call one of her friends to let them know that my mind wasn't made up but I begged her not to call them! I ended up pledging the old row house because I don't think the new row house gave me as good of rush because they didn't think I liked them.

Although, I love my PC and I've made my home with my sorority the truth is I wish I had pledged my grandma's new row house. I wonder how things would have been different if my mom had called her friend and just made sure that they knew I very much loved their sorority and was open minded....

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