thinking of dropping

Give it some time. This was my first year as an active and I've had no time to do anything. Your big may just be trying to recover from recruitment, we were here a week before for work week. Even if you don't love your big give your sorority a chance.

May I ask, what attracted you to your choice?
When you were at pref did you have several actives you could not wait to see?
Did you hang with several new sisters at retreat?

1. At your first new member meeting volunteer for whatever comes available.
2. Walk up to an active you would like to get to know and talk to them. Ask them if they want to go for coffee later in the week
3. Pick two other new members like you and ask them if they want to meet up for lunch or coffee in the next day or two
4. Send a text or message to your bid day big just to thank her. Tell her you appreciate all the work the actives did for recruitment
5. Find out what new members live in your dorm or near you. Make an extra effort to talk to them and walk back home with them
6. Do this for at least four weeks

Great advice above! It's way to early to decide. Quit judging against other things you are hearing ~ the grass is always greener. You will start having date parties, and other events and find your friends. Can't imagine you would wuit without even trying. 100's of girls would have loved your spot. I almost wonder if this is a troll just trying to knock old row!!!!

I was in the same boat as you. I was from oos and pledged an old row house. On bid day it felt like everyone already knew each other. I wanted to drop out and transfer schools. But my parents made me stick it out until the end of the semester, and by then I had found my clique within my pledge class and I loved Alabama. Hang in there - it's only been a few days.

I think part of it was that I was slightly influenced by reputation- the three chapters I preffed were 2 ""bottom/lower"" tier chapters and then the ""top"" tier chapter that I ended up at. I want to do SGA/be super involved/etc, and I knew that realistically the girls in the chapter I chose have much more pull on campus and better connections than the other 2. To be fair, I also liked this chapter a better than the other two, because they seemed so much more fun and laid back.

I feel like my biggest issue is that because it's old row, nearly every girl in the sorority knew actives going in, and I literally don't know a single one. The girls in my pledge class all seem to know at least a few girls from high school, and yet again, I know nobody.

My plan is to give it all a month. I'll be able to eat meals at the house, go to football games, and have sisterhood events, and by then, I should hopefully be able to have a decent group of friends.

Also, what exactly am I able to volunteer for at new member meetings?

This is the problem with the whole notion of tiers. A top tier house is perfect for some girls and the opposite of perfect for others.

It still just sounds "weird" that someone wants to drop a top house after literally just ONE day and keeps throwing in its "old row" every chance they get. think it's someone trying to promote the stereotype that old row is cliquey and not accepting of OOS girls which was not my experience at all. I mean really ~ why go they the hell of last week and quit ANY house after one day?

Calm down old row stop being so paranoid, not everyone is out to get you. This girl seems pretty genuine. Stereotypes exist for a reason.

I know you are anxious about making new friends, getting super involved, and finding your perfect fit.It was the same way and my advice is to just take a breath. Do not look at other people's experiences right now because this is yours. You made a choice, It has only been a few days and you don't always make your best friends during the first week. Once classes get going you will learn how to manage your time. It doesn't matter what sorority you ended up in, the same thing could have happened in one of the other two and then you would have thought it was just because it was a low tier. Definitely give it a month and try to spend more time meeting your sisters and less time on greek rank.