legacy question
by: G22g
Ok so I am a legacy at a very good house. i had a full schedule for sisterhood. Now my three have my legacy house, which I like a lot and will put them 1😺
Here is my question though. I was released by top houses that were telling me my legacy did not hurt me and actually made me even more desired to them because they love to get other houses' legacies. So were they just messing with me? Should I have kept my legacy a secret? I don't want to seem unhappy because I feel lucky and blessed. I am just wondering though. Do y'all moms and actives think my legacy hurt me at the cuts last night?
Comment#2by: honestly
there's no way to know for sure why some house cut you. however, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't have told any other houses that I was a legacy somewhere else, because of the way legacy rules are (having to put a legacy on your first bid list if they're invited to pref, etc). But there's no way to go back and change the past, especially since you already fell in love with your legacy house! there's no sense in dwelling on that which you cannot change. To all future PNMs: I wouldn't recommend explicitly stating what house your mother/sister/whomever was in, and would say to phrase it "I wanted to go through recruitment because some of my family members have been Greek, and I always admired the values and close friendships that resulted from their membership, but my mom/sister/aunt/whatever knows I'm keeping an open mind!" and don't mention what house!
by: PNM
I didn't say, but don't they know my legecy house (mom and grandma, but not the house at Bama), from my resume?
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#3by: Heyy
I don't think that you being a legacy hurt you because it shows that you will have family support and will be more likely to understand the responsibilities of being in a sorority. Plus it is fun to "steal" legacies haha. .BUT if you brought up being a legacy to XYZ at different houses, it might've come across as "well she's going to her legacy house anyway, so why waste a spot on her when she's wanting to gio somewhere else". So if an active at another house asked you if you were a legacy to anywhere, and you said yes but "I'm having so much fun at yalls house and I'm so happy to be back this round ", then no, it wouldn't hurt you. But if you brought it up, even innocently, then yes, it could've been a factor as to why other houses dropped you. Enjoy pref!!!
#4by: Go Greek
Most girls are a legacy somewhere. So no, if you didn't talk about it at other houses, I doubt it played into their decisions in a big way. The only exception would be if they had received outside info (from an alumna, active with a friend in your legacy house, etc) that you still had your legacy and were leaning towards them,
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by: Pg
Not my situation but I get that. A pnm in my group said she had to cut her legacy as soon as she could, and make it known to avoid that problem. But couldn't somebody just say they did?
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by: G22g
Thank you!! So you think it might have mattered a little. I was afraid it could but I also felt weird about misleading. I told everyone I had no pressure to bid legacy and had a totally open mind and wanted to find my own fit and let the chips fall where they may. I was scared they would not want to waste a spot at pref on me because I was a risk to put the legacy first. Thank you though.
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