blackballed for rush?

I really dont like your personality, and If I knew who you were you wouldn't be going anywhere in my book.

What's done is done. All you can do is move forward and do what you can to increase your odds of having a good recruitment. Honestly, though, you came in here sounding like your back was up and your claws were out. Maybe that's because you had "just read" the info that upset you, but you need to pull all that back in. No point worrying about what you can't control, which includes member selection. Focus on what you can control: Get recommendations to every chapter, make sure all your social media is in good shape, choose now to keep an open mind throughout rush and go into it with your best foot forward. Good luck to you!

First off, lose the attitude with the whole "Holier than thou". I personally know my sorority does take every members personal opinion very seriously. Partying is one thing but if you were an absolute mess in high school or did one really bad thing, we will vote as a chapter about whether or not we want to continue rushing you based on if a sister brings it up as a concern. That being said, the sorority won't always 100% deem you out if you did one bad thing. It's a majority vote. The reason we do this is because we don't want two girls that hate each other from high school or whatever in the same sorority. It hurts the sisterhood. We want members who glorify each other. Good luck during rush! I'm sure you're just overthinking it.

If you don't have any direct friends in any sororities you probably won't get in to a top one. Especially if you have a rep. I know a girl from Charlotte who had a bad rep and got cut from everywhere but Gphi two years ago and she was perfectly normal and pretty.

Honestly, you sound like you have a very bad attitude. You're already very defensive and sound confrontational. People can sense your vibe and just not want to be around you.

you may be over thinking it your rep may not be as bad as you think it is. But back to what you said, yes just because one girl doesn't like you doesn't necessarily mean you'll be blackballed but depending on the circumstances you might still have a good chance of that happening. Maybe Greek life isn't for you

For some sororities, their recruitment process makes it very difficult for just one or two girls to “blackball” someone. It would take a larger percentage of the chapter to be saying the same things. On the other hand, some sororities, one or two girls can definitely say their piece and it would affect you. My roommate dated someone for years in HS and a girl from one chapter banned her, then banned me, via association (Roommate). I learned of this like a year afterwards from people involved with forming the rush lists

Just maintain a clean social media (no pics w drinks in hand, middle finger, etc) and carry yourself well! College is different than HS and reputations don’t have to follow you!

If you are sincere about wanting to start over, maybe put off recruitment for a year, behave yourself at parties, make friends with girls from your dorm who do pledge, get good grades (WHICH IS WHY YOUR ARE GOING TO COLLEGE, btw), and just be chill.
Then, see if you want to go through recruitment as a sophomore. There is actually a seperate quota for upperclass members (too long to explain here).
People change after high school. Let your change be for the good.

This post is from 10 years ago why are ppl still responding 😭

look, honestly if ur rep in hs was THAT bad that ur writing an essay on greek rank worried that ur going to get screwed over— yeah u might have something to worry about (at least with the top tiers).

nobody is perfect and everyone has ppl that don’t like them but if u built up a reputation where u think that it’s bad enough to affect rush it probably is. i’m sorry it’s definitely not the answer u want but it’s true. i was close with my exec board and there are plenty of girls who transfer or come in with horrible reps and u get blacklisted. if there’s even one girl in said sorority who DESPISES u enough to report u to exec it’s over.

also by u already having a lowkey attitude and pointing fingers in this post alone shows a lack of maturity. i’m not even saying this to be mean but if u want the honest truth from a complete outsider this post just looks bad.

if u have genuinely changed or made amends u shouldn’t be worried, if u haven’t then yeah maybe. ultimately whatever is meant to happen will happen sorry if it sounds harsh but i won’t sugar coat it