didn't get first choice
by: PNM
Comment#5by: What house?
by: Ummm
#6by: GoGreek
A ton of girls get their second choice- like close to half of the pnms. It's going to be ok!!
This has been a really strange end to rush with the hurricane so don't get discouraged. Soon you'll have a calendar full of sorority and new member events and meetings and you'll be able to make friends and feel settled into your new sorority. \n\n\n\n\n
by: ^^^
#7by: It will be ok.
Recruitment is so tiring and stressful. Now that you've received a bid, you have to wait 12 months if you want to try again (no COB or spring cob). Recruitment as a sophomore is way harder and your grades have to perfect. Many houses will drop you because of your grade. You have nothing to lose if you stick it out for a while!! Pledge classes are so so big that you will meet girls like you and you will make friends. Don't give up..you've survived the hardest part! It is extra difficult because of missing the excitement bid day. IMO, it is a big mistake and to drop right now. If it still feels wrong in a month, gen you can drop knowing that you gave it your best.
#8by: PNM
My grades are great. So that isn't it. I thought I found my house and it is disappointing. I shouldn't go to a house feeling disappointment. That really isn't fair to the girls or the house. I really thought this would be an exciting day and this would be a happy experience. Maybe I just didn't fit in like I thought I did.
by: It's ok
Not trying to comment on your grades or hurt your feelings at all. All I was saying is that recruitment as a sophomore is way harder and your college grades will need to be perfect.
Your first choice did like you because you made it to pref. You were on their bid list but it was filled before your name was called, that's all. They may have had more legacies, or friends going thru. It's hard and I'm so sorry you are sad and hurting tonight.
You have been invited to join a sorority that has hundreds of members and you have several weeks to decide. It's your decision but there is no reason to make it immediately. Go, meet your pledge class and see if you can make some connections. You have nothing to lose by staying but you have a lot to lose by quitting too soon and regretting your decision later. Good luck!
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by: GoGreek
1. Your first choice house liked you enough to invite you to Pref. Chapters are not allowed to cut pnms after Pref so every single pnm who attends pref is on the Bid List somewhere. It's not as if you did anything wrong or you wouldn't have fit in there. There were just enough other pnms ahead of you on the Bid List. The girls in the chapter with whom you bonded this week are probably as sad as you are that you didn't get a bid.
2. You'll realize this when you're on the other side but MANY new members are disappointed with their bids. Some are better faking it than others but you are far from alone in not getting your #1 choice. And I'm not talking about top houses / bottom houses - there are girls who preffed two top houses and felt more of a connection to one over the other. There are girls who didn't get a bid to their legacy. There are girls who are jealous of roommates and friends who got their first choices. 98% of girls who are disappointed on Bid Day end up loving their sorority. It just takes a little time. In my pledge class, a girl cried on Bid Day- for hours, it was dramatic and ridiculous but she was just so upset she didn't get her first choice. She stuck with us and ended up being on Exec Board her Junior year. You would never know she cried on Bid Day if you hadn't been there- she is the BEST Big Sis, a top rusher, volunteers for everything. That could be you in your new house if you just give it a chance.
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#9by: I cried
As someone who cried on bid day because I didn't get my first choice, my advice is to STICK WITH IT! Being in Greek life is better than not going Greek. You will find your place in that house. You only met a handful of people during what is really a short shallow week of recruitment. If you hate it at the end of the semester , then quit. But most people find a home in their second choice.
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Yea everything is wrong. I did not want this house.
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