stop!

It is one thing to try to be open minded, but when you know, you know. it's not reasonable or fair to blame someone for dropping out if they arent a match. In fact, you should thank them for their integrity and strength by staying true to who they are and, able to make this difficult decision to respectfully disengage and not take the bid of someone who is trying so hard for that house.

Thank you. There are girls out they who agonized over their decisions to drop. It's a super tough decision to make. Accept a bid you might regret, wear letters you won't feel pride in, give up any last shred of hope of one day getting a bid to the sorority you have spent the last year dreaming about? What ever the reason, it's a tough one.

Girls should be sensitive to others, regardless of their decisions.

It is rare that sophomores get bids, but it does happen! Every year. Next year might be their year. Or, what happens many times is that girls drop out of ole miss, especially oos girls and rush at their new schools next year. Being from oos is hard! Even harder when you pledge a sorority where you don't know anyone. Trust me, there are cliques within every sorority that are hard to break into. Even the bottom houses have cliques.

Give these girls the space and time they need to heal. Don't bully them into doing something they don't feel comfortable in doing! Don't rub it in their faces that they are missing out on something. They know.

It saddens me as a mother to read all of the positive and negative comments. My beautiful daughter also ended up dropping at pref day due to being cut from the two sororities that she wanted. She was rushed very hard by actives and Rush chairs. I begged her to pledge one of the sororities that was on her bid card because I think they did get a great group of girls. Regardless she did not pledge and has been devastated. I would hope and pray that sorority sisters will still reach out to these girls who did not make the cut and are floundering around feeling so rejected with all of this in their face. We are all beautiful in HIS eyes and none of this will matter in 10 yrs. from now. I know because I was in a sorority many years ago and I promise that is the last thing people will think about. Enjoy your experience in college girls and please treat others and you want to be treated.

I absolutely will get off. Thanks for reminding the meanness in this place. So sad. God bless you.

There is absolutely no reason why you have to humiliate someone who is hurting because their daughter dropped for whatever reason and is expressing their non condemning opinion. This site is for anyone not just for kids as yourself. I am ashamed to hear some of your awful comments and to think you are in a sorority disgusts me. Shame on you. Yes you do give the Greek System a bad name.

I don't doubt that there are girls who really, truly feel they don't fit in a house.
But the majority of the time, the girl thinks she's too good for a house. If women would be a little more open minded and give a group a try, most would find a home.

I'm kind of amazed anyone would be that mean. I love my house and had a good rush 3 years ago, but have friends who are just like me that didn't. I get no one wants moms in this convo but really? By and not felicia go spend a little time at sardis thinking about twhat matters instead of spewing hate at someone who is hurting. This ish is embarrassing as most of us don't have the hardass attitude you do. I love OM but it can be hard for freshmen. Why not play nice instead of making hurting people feel worse. JMO