anyone else feel this way? (not my 1st choice)

It is completely normal to experience some let down and/or disappointment after preference. It's ok. You just have to put it all in perspective. You did get a bid, so many women did not. Stick it out and get to know your pledge class, the are girls you will spend the most time with during your time in your chapter. Make the best of it, you are bound to that chapter for one year if you should drop. So I would take the time to really meet people and find out what your organization has to offer. Best wishes to you.

What XOXO said! Give it a chance and give it your best. I'm not just trying to make you feel better when I say this, but I know plenty of girls who haven't gotten their first choice and felt some disappointment, but they went on to really love their chapters and see that it was a great fit for them. I know one who was so upset that she almost didn't go to bid day, then her attitude was really sucky for the first few weeks and she planned to drop. I don't know who talked to her, but she stuck it out a little longer, found her place and now she's a junior, holds an office and says she one day wants to work for their nationals. Give it a chance. Things can and do get better.

You need to lose the Debbie Downer attitude quickly or it's not going to work. Instead of pining for a sorority that didn't rank you high enough, find your people in the sorority that did. In a sorority of 150-200 women that should not be a problem. Find your people and the love for your organization will come.

After all the intensity of recruitment, it's normal to feel a little let down. Just wait. Give it a chance. Suit up and show up. Meet as many people as you can. You are still getting to know this organization. It can take time to grow on you. That is normal and healthy. If you like your group (just not as much as your first choice) and you like some of your sisters, that's a good place to start.

Instead of pining away for the chapter that didn't want you enough to place you high enough on their list, be excited and happy for the chapter that did! The chapters at IU are huge. Get to know the others in your pledge class and the current chapter actives. Be the best new member that you can be!

Trust the process - Every house has great sisterhood (may not realize it if you look at the pages here). You will find a home and friends for a lifetime.

A girl on my floor freshman year was gunning for the "top" chapters and ended up in a mid-tier house. She was clearly a little disappointed but she still gave it a shot. Now as a junior shes the chapter social chair and loves it. There are just too many girls in each chapter to not find a group of friends you fit with. Keep your head up and embrace what house your in, cause Greek life is so much more fun when you drop the whole tier thing