my story
by: OnwardI got cut early on (after the first party) by almost every housed sorority. After the 2nd party, I had only unhoused left. Growing up in a family where Greek life (living in a house with brothers and sisters, the house moms, cold air dorms, activities, friendships) was an important part of my grandparent's, aunt's, uncle's, mom's and dad's lives (still is), I just assumed I would be part of Greek life too. The experience, for me, sucked. ONLY because I wasn't chosen. Had I received invites back and ended up at ANY of the housed sororities I would of course have a different opinion and would be cheerfully learning the chants and on my way to a Greek life... I'm not sure where I went wrong. The problem is obviously with me. I thought I had great convos with the girls, have a 4.0 gpa after 1st sem, am athletic and pretty...Very popular in high school, involved with a ton of activities - although none of that matters now. I wish I could have been part of it all. Wishing everyone the best, and I will not be one of the Greek bashers just because I didn't make it through.
#1by: Hey
What I'm hearing is that you gave up the opportunity, privilege, and many benefits of going Greek because you wanted to sleep in a house? I'm sorry but that's very superficial. Greek life is about more than a house and I'm sorry you didn't see that. I hope you made the right choice for yourself.
We don't know you, but there is likely not anything actually wrong with you. You're just a normal person, and IU rush is the hardest in the country because our housed chapters artificially lower their quota. That doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. Not everyone has to like you enough to make you their sister (or like you at all), unfortunately for you. But I always think that if someone does show that they like you (by inviting you to potentially be their sister for ex), it's a shame if you don't give them a fair chance. But that is wholly up to you and you made your decision. I hope you're able to move on and happy with the decisions you made.
Commentby: IU
The words chosen by But are harsh but the sentiment rings true. It is a shame that the OP did not see that the unhoused chapters still offer so much of the experience that her family enjoyed. The house is a cherry on top but what she really wanted was the sundae, which was still being offered had she been able to separate the two.
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#4by: Meee2
I agree with Onward. Unhoused sororities give a totally different experience. Some things are the same, other things definitely are NOT. My sister was in an unhoused sorority at IU so I know that is not what I was looking for either. My other sister and brother (twins) live in Greek houses at another university and love it. Have both perspectives. Housed vs. Onhoused - VERY different overall. Everyone needs to make their own decisions. No one is right or wrong here.
#5by: ifeelyou
There is nothing wrong with strictly wanting to be in a housed chapter, I don't know why people are so hateful towards others who long to be in a house and with a sorority who has a house. That is just their desire!! Who cares!! Like yeah ok, the unhoused sororities are great and very nice girls, but who cares if someone strictly wants to be in a housed chapter. Everyone says it doesn't make a difference but....it kind of really does. & if someone wants that opportunity to be in a house then so be it!! Clearly we had to give every chapter a chance as a PNM, so it's not like we were completely blocking them out of our mindset. STOP BASHING ON PEOPLE FOR WANTING A HOUSED SORORITY!!!!!!
#6by: Keeping it real
It is obvious that there is a mom on many of the threads trying to push/stay positive/uplift the unhorsed sororiety. So jus please stop. You don't go to school here, you don't know the girls in those chapters and you don't know the Pnm posting. Were you one of the unhorsed girls at your school? Being in an unhorsed house, sucks! Let's keep it real here. If you don't feel like you belong or think the girls are weird, why in the he$$ should you join? It's not a privledge to be "chosen' by people you don't want to be with. We all have had people want to be our friends that we don't feel the same about.
While I'm on a roll, at each house during rush-it's at first a chance pairing. If the girl is weird/personality blows or is not viewed highly by her house your chances of getting asked back is slim. Soooooooooooo many factors go into this.
Also, every and I mean every house has some weird chicks in it. Just because the might might be pretty does not mean they don't have issues-or just plainly suck.
iu rush does suck and there are 1 Illion factors that go into it. And 1/2 of the stuff has nothing to do with you. Just saying.
I'm keeping it real- going back to bed. I'm hungover!
by: Ok
Just because we're showing Panhellenic love doesn't mean that we are moms. I'm a senior in a lower tier housed sorority. My biological sister is in an unhoused chapter. I am older and therefore have a much more mature perspective than you, and yes I'll stand up for my sister's chapter and the others like hers because I have a better perspective of what that is like than a random PNM or GreekRank hater who is just out to bash the lower tier houses. I'm legitimately sick of this elitist negativity on here. So you can go back to bed, but you can't tell people to stop posting.
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by: Onward
@Hey... Yes, living in a sorority IS a privilege. A huge privilege. And I would have loved to have that privilege. I can see how ppl may view me and my post as superficial. I was open-minded in the last rounds. I hung on every word and listening to the answers regarding the activities and the sisterhood - everything. This was a hard decision for me. In the end it was based on the answers to the questions I had about living in unhoused vs. housed, observing the other sisters and trying to envision myself among them. Again, they may have dropped me too. I shouldn't have stirred things up here, and if there was a way to delete my original post I would. Very sorry to have caused anyone negative reactions. Thanks!
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