an honest word of advice for pnms

Nothing's stopping you from making friends anywhere you want. The house you join doesn't limit who you are friends with. If you can't make friends then maybe look inwardly and examine your own self. But, you are obviously the same anti-sorority troll, not actually in a sorority, who comes on here bashing rush, houses, and Greek life in general. You aren't dissuading anyone from being interested in sorority membership and just showing your bitterness.

I got a bid from all three top sororitys here and decided I needed a bid from every sorority before I graduated and am about to start my third rush this fall. After meeting so many people, I learned that most of the girls are not actually good enough for me. Im also only about halfway through my goal so take my opinion with a grain of salt.

I rushed as a freshman and got in a sorority. I am having the same experience as you. All my friends from HS have met their best friends in their sororities. Sadly for me I can't say that is true. I have made no genuine connections with anyone in my sorority. They say trust the process, but that didn't work out for me. I did not end up with a good sorority for me. I'm sorry -- not everyone is the same and I just don't clique with the girls. I get allong and I have lots of acquaintances and I have participated in so many things but I am at the point now that it is just a big time commitment that doesn't bring me much pleasure. I was crying right before pref round because the three sororities that I really liked had dropped me and I wasn't thrilled with the two that invited me to pref round. I really should have dropped out at that point, but it seemed like greek life was the thing to do for a social life so I really wanted to be part of it. It makes me sad that I can't join another sorority in the future.

Same. It’s not that I regret the sorority I’m in because the girls are nice. I just wish I had given it more thought and not listened to everyone’s opinions. I see now that all of the sororities are good and there was probably a better fit for me.

I am in the same situation. I was just so happy to get invited back when so many girls were not getting invites. I just took the sorority that gave me a bid. I just came into Clemson very naive and knew nobody. It was supposed to be a fresh start but somehow I feel trapped by being labeled by the sorority my very first week. Don't get me wrong, the girls are really super nice, I just don't fit in with them like I should.

I rushed last year.. Rush was the hardest week of my entire life. Even harder than finals. I called my sister crying almost every day. Nothing in my life ever made me feel so inadequate and bad about my self. I lost all my confidence. I even had legacy with one sorority because of my sister and they dropped me. So did my two other favorites. In round 2 I thought I did great, but then got dropped by my favorites again. It was not a mutual selection process. I got dropped by every sorority that I ranked at the top of my list. Girls were dropping out all around me who didn't like who invited them back, but . I wanted to be in a sorority so much that by preference round I was willing to take whoever wanted me. My two options were just okay. I took my bid with hopes that I would like it, but I just never clicked more than a couple of the girls. I wish I had been more selective and when I didn't like who asked me back I should have just dropped out.

find your people and no one else!