what is the point of sororities?
by: disappointedBid day was fun, but I walked away not knowing anyone and in that week nobody has reached out to me. Chapter was stupid. I guess I am really sad because I am OOS and have not made any friends at Clemson. I was hoping the sorority would make me feel welcome and I would make some connections. So what is the point of sororities?
Commentby: sisterhood
Agreed. Do you have NM's in your classes? Dorm? Focus on your fellow NM's. Walk together to classes, meals, sorority meetings. Ask people to grab coffee. Offer to make popcorn and have them to your room; something, anything. Sisterhood doesn't fall into your lap; you have to be approachable and willing to put in some effort too.
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#3by: disappointed
I don't know why it is so hard, I had no trouble making friends at home. Clemson is such a hard school to break into. So many cliques. So many people know each other from high school. I wish someone from my Sorority would make me feel welcome. I rushed because I thought that is how I would feel connected and nothing has happened yet.
by: Olderchick
Just give it sometime. You can find friends anywhere. It is a little cliquey but anywhere can be. Also if sorority life doesn’t work out or it’s not for you, you can always drop.
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by: tbh
Honestly the biggest thing is just putting yourself out there and realizing that many many people are in your exact same situation. It's not weird to introduce yourself and just start talking to random people in classes, go to eat with someone you don't know well, etc, in or outside your sorority. College in general works that way, that's how you meet people, make connections, and form friend groups
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by: Mirt
If you can find a couple of friends in life that you enjoy and can be ultimately lifelong friends with, you are succeeding. Friends that accept you for who you are and visa versa. Quality vs Quantity. Some of the commentary/suggestions here is very good. You do have to make an effort to reach out and connect.
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#4by: ya
can’t wait till ur a senior looking back and would do it over again every time. you’ll be fine and it’s still so soon so don’t worry about it. i’m sure you have from friends in or out of your sorority to that you could reach out to and help you—be straight up and ask them to have a real convo with you about how you’re feeling and make that deeper connection with them. clem is a great place to be you just have to settle in. don’t think of yourself as out of state, think of yourself as a resident of clemson and take pride in the fact that you make up clemson—ur not just looking from the outside.
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by: superficial
#6by: still lonely
Hey I an the original poster and thought I would give you an update. Still feel like such an outsider at Clemson and in my sorority. I have made a few friends, but I really don't think that I fit in at Clemson or in my Sorority. I never in my life have had such a hard time making friends. If you are not from South Carolina, you are considered an outsider. I was so excited to come to Clemson. All I have to say is if you are on the exec board of a sorority, you really should make everyone feel welcome. I had an exec member treat me like a total stranger at an event.
by: Facts
1. You have been here for a little over a month. You can't expect to be bff with everyone you meet in such a brief period. Be patient and give it time.
2. If you have an attitude that you are an outsider, then you send out those vibes to others. Few people want to be friends with a negative person.
3. In a group of over 200 women and new member classes of over 60 women each, it can be difficult for an Exec member to know every new member at first. That's where you have to put yourself out there and introduce yourself. I get the impression that you expect other people to do the work for you in making friends.
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by: True
I'm a sophomore, OOS and would have to agree. For first time in my life I was called a Yankee. I have a sibling who went to a different southern, SEC school and never came across this kind of attitude. It does get better. You don't need a ton of friends, just a few good ones. Not everyone will treat you like an outsider. Give it some more time and get involved in dorm, clubs, your major, your church.
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by: Curious
Now that you have made it through the fall semester, are you still disappointed?
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by: Olderchick
Clubs! Clubs! Anything club that interests you just do it!! You won’t regret it
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