after rnd 1 what went wrong
by: WOWI know rushing is competitive but I was only invited back to 3 our of max 10 for round 2. Is this normal I am a legacy for one and the other 2 I wasn’t interested in but since the others in my top 10 didn’t invite me back, I have to go to those. I had really great conversations with many so I am not sure what went wrong. Strong grades and lots of EC but I know that everyone at CU has the same. Considering dropping out...
#1by: pnm
Comment#2by: Keep a open mind.
Don't quit! With so many women going through and RFM, many chapters have to make early and deep cuts. So even if they like you, they HAVE to let folks go. That said, all the chapters are great in their own way, but it may take longer to get to know some of the others until later rounds where you have more time and meet more people. You're already paid for recruitment, and it never hurts to meet more people on campus. So don't get down, stay positive, and give things a chance!
#4by: Youbeou
I know it seems difficult but I strongly encourage going all the way through Pref and if you still don't like Amy of the chapters drop then. Think about it. After one day they don't know you any more than you know them so how do you really know you're not interested in those other 2 chapters?
by: cu
Take a deep breath and pat yourself on the back for getting through such an emotional experience. It may seem super personal but honestly it’s way more of a numbers game than anyone in Greek life is willing to admit. Being in a sorority or not doesn’t define your college experience. Classes haven’t even started yet, and you will meet so many amazing people this week! There are lots of other ways to meet people, so don’t let the way you feel right now keep you from putting yourself out there in other ways. Clemson has so much more to offer than just Greek life and freshman year is the best! If you still want to join a sorority, try COB or rush again next year.
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by: Springflower
I wasn’t happy with my results either if it makes you feel any better. Just realize there are other girls out there who will be ready to make friends and Clemson is an amazing school. Focus on things that make you happy, do well in your classes, and hopefully you will feel better about everything. Join other clubs or play sports. Life is about way more than Greek Life.
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#8by: Don’t worry girl
Rush at Clemson has nothing to do with how you are as a person and everything to do with who you know from high school/ if you’re from a cool hometown if you’re from outside the south. In state girls will go through rush being super rude to their PI Chis and rush groups and get invited back to every house while lots of girls from smaller towns will get cut rounds one and two because pulling local girls makes the sororities look more selective. I used to think it was about looks to, and it is to a degree, but plenty of girls who got dropped from rush look better than 3/4 of adpi. It’s all about how fake polite you can be to the girls rushing you and if they like your area code. Don’t worry about it girl frats don’t care about that and they’re the ones throwing the parties.
#9by: oos
That is so accurate. So many of the local girls knew each other and knew people in the sororities. I kind of wish I had waited to rush until next year so I knew more girls. It was very intimidating. I got dropped from my favorites, I really think they were a good match but I guess they didn't like me. I hope I like the one I got in, but honestly think I would have done much better had I been at this school for a year. Lots of my friends schools are doing rush in January. I think that would have been better for me.
by: Here's the facts.
What you don't realize is that the "top" chapters are good at making small talk and recruiting. Period. They can make anyone like them in a short time (which is how they recruit well), but that does not mean anyone would fit in after recruitment is over. I know women who have pledged "top" chapters only later to drop out when they realize they don't have much in common with their sisters except the superficial stuff. The chapters who are not as strong at recruiting still have great women, but they may not be as good at small talk. It may take longer for you to really get to know them. Obviously they must have seen something in you, however, for you to get a bid. (These chapters do drop women during recruitment contrary to gossip on here.)
People need to get over "favorites" and "best" equating with chapters who know how to sell themselves and really get to know the women in the chapters who have chosen them. Most of the women after recruitment would say they love their chapters and could never see themselves anywhere else (contrary to what they thought going through recruitment).
What you won't realize is that recruitment really is a numbers game, and no chapter can take every women who goes through, whether they may like them in a party or not. So some chapters take the safe way out and chose women they knew before because they are "known quantities." That doesn't mean you aren't likable or that the chapter who selected you is any less of a group. You probably won't see this until you experience recruitment from the other side.
What people also don't realize is that there are disadvantages to deferred recruitment as well. With deferred recruitment, you now have a semester to buy into rumors about each chapter, often which are false, and are less likely to give all groups a chance. The chapters are also more likely to get false impressions about you through campus gossip. Heaven forbid you do something really embarrassing at a party, for example, that sticks with you and becomes your reputation, where chapters will not give you a chance. Women still don't always get into the chapters they feel are perfect for them or where they have friends in either, which can lead to even more disappointment. And you better keep your grades up because now chapters have a full semester of college grades to go on, which puts all PNMs on an even playing field. Low grades are an easy cut for any chapter to make.
In the end, it is a waste of time to dwell on what could have been and best to make the best of what you have now. It may sound cliche, but it really is true: you get out what you put into it.
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by: What??
Lol I rushed last year and I definitely wouldn’t say’top’ chapters are that great at small top if we’re thinking about the same sororities. I found in General they know who they want and have no problem making other girls who are rushing feel completely uncomfortable and unwelcome in their rush events. I ranked 2 out of he 5 ‘top’ chapters in my bottom 3 after round one last year and none of them were near the top
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#10by: oos
I agree with much of what you said, but I still think OOS girls are at a tremendous disadvantage. I also don't like how we just arrived on campus and were on our own. I hated not knowing anybody. I hated not having anybody to eat with. My roommate didn't rush so I came home to an empty room overnight. I was going thru a lot of loneliness so I just don't think the best part of me was on display. I still think if it had been 2nd semester Rush that I would have done much better because I would have been more comfortable knowing some people around me.
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by: Absolutely
Agree with this. Also you don't know if you will love your legacy chapter the more you get to know them. Keep an open mind and be your best self (not pretend to be someone you are not). Try to get to know the chapters and let them get to know you. Chances are you will find a chapter you connect with. If not, you could decide not to receive a bid after pref and COB elsewhere after primary recruitment. (You would be eligible for a snap bid, but those are rare, so don't count on those.). Also keep in mind that often one doesn't get to really know their chapter until at least the first semester, so if you do accept a bid, give yourself time to get to know your chapter and pledge class. Think about it-- most good friendships take time to develop.
Have fun and good luck!
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