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@mo -- Extremely accurate comment, couldn't have said it better myself. To add to this--in joining any sorority, any PNM is going to have to do the work of showing up and making a big effort to get to know the NMs and actives. That is how friendships and a sisterhood are built. When people get bids to houses they may not initially have wanted, they misinterpret this work (which all NMs have to do) as something that only they have to do due to their house not being a good fit. But this has more to do with their perception and attitude of doing the actual work it takes to build lifelong friendships and a sisterhood instead of that particular house. If they drop, they are cheating themselves out of a golden opportunity because they didn't want to do the work sisterhood takes. It's anyone's choice if they want to do the work or not, but know that a sisterhood is an active process that takes work and not just something you fall into.