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Poster Name:
Charlotte

Poster Message:
Hi, I am sorry to read that you are still sad about rush. It has that effect on lots of women. Please know you are not alone. You've gotten great advice on fall rush from the two previous commenters, so the only thing I have to add is that I would only transfer if you want to attend a totally different kind of school, such as a liberal arts college or a women's college. Something like that -- or a school in a whole different country or part of America. The reason I write this is that I transferred and found the experience of being a second year/ sophomore at a whole new school (which was UVA) VERY difficult and lonely. I do think it might have been less lonely had I transferred from UVA to a small school, but transferring to a big school made me realize that most students found their friend groups first year. I did go through rush as a second year at UVA and it was honestly a hard experience - this was before there was a second year quota. What would have made rush much, much happier for me was if I'd gone into with an open mind and been less set on certain houses. I ended up joining a house I stupidly thought of as being beneath me (I am ashamed to write this) but realized soon enough that I could make good friends there and do all the sorority stuff that ALL houses do. I was so caught up in worrying what other people would think of me that I hardly considered what I felt at all. I regret this approach and share this note in hopes that I can spare you some of that wasted time. In the end, I'm glad I joined a house that wanted me and let me feel at home. I wish you the best luck with all of these decisions and also the knowledge that you won't always feel sad about this brutal, cutthroat process called rush. It's a really stupid process and we all get too wrapped up in what it "means" about us. It actually means nothing about you. It's super random and mean. I hope you can get past it and if you want to join a sorority, join one that wants you and lets you enjoy the fun part.