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honest question

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So you only know the one girl in ADPi who you are kinda friends with? Because if you don't really have close friends in it now that you vibe with super well, and you weren't feeling it with them the first time you rushed, then why is ADPi your dream house? I promise I'm not asking this in a mean or rude way at all, but most of the time when girls really really want a certain house, it's because they felt like they could talk for hours with the girls, like they didn't have to force anything, no awkward moments and they feel like they've known these girls forever and already see them as sisters. It doesn't sound like you had that experience with ADPi at all, which I feel like might mean you're caught up in how much you love ADPi's vibe/image/reputation, but not really focusing on the girls themselves. I could see if you knew a bunch of other girls (besides the ones who rushed you) and had gotten really close with them and thought they were amazing people, why you would want to rush again and get a bid to ADPi. But just based off what you're saying, you didn't have anything in common with the ones who rushed you, and you're only at a polite surface level friendship with the one girl. And while it's true that maybe you just happened to be paired with some girls that you didn't click with right away, I still think you should rush again and forget the letters of the houses you're in, and really try and find the house where the time passes quickly, you don't want to leave, and you feel like you could talk to them about anything and everything. A good tip is to never go with the house that you feel nervous before going into because you're trying so hard to give a good impression - go with the house that can walk into and let your true personality and interests show. I've seen it time and time again where girls pick a house because of the letters/rep/image and end up miserable because the exciting part of announcing that you're in XYZ house and wearing letters on campus and stuff lasts about a week and then reality will hit and it comes down to actually making genuine friendships with the girls. From what you've said about yourself, I can think of a handful of houses that might also be a good fit for you just off the top of my head (kd, xo, pi phi). I think it would be a mistake to go back in with only eyes for ADPi. Unless this time around is different and you really connect with the girls, I think you will have a much better experience if you let yourself be excited about other houses. But good luck, I hope I didn't come off as rude or a know it all, I'm just giving my honest input and hopefully offered a new perspective! I truly hope you find your dream house!